Do others consider you the caretaker
Does it feel like you’re always putting your partner’s needs first?
Are you willing to invest more than a couple of months in a
relationship where you feel increasingly less connected, than more
connected to your mate?”
Do you make excuses for your partner’s behaviors? (Not calling when
he says he will? Being chronically late? Drunkenness? Harsh words?)
Do you do whatever you can not to “rock the boat” in your
Do you compromise more than your mate in decision making?
Do you feel less smart, less able, or less important than your mate?
Do you ever wonder if your partner is lying to you about other women
in his life, his whereabouts, his job, or responsibilities?
Do you choose your mate based on their financial status?
Do you ever distrust your partner?
Has it been so long since you’ve been in a relationship that you’ll
do almost anything to get one?
Do you ever fear that if your partner leaves you may not find
Have you given up things that are important in your life as they
simply don’t fit with your mate? (i.e. dancing, sports, social events,
time with your friends, etc.)
Do you ever feel uneasy around your partner? Even if you can’t put
your finger on why?
Have you ever caught your partner in a lie?
Has your partner ever called you names?
Has your partner ever harmed you in some way (physically,
emotionally, verbally, and/or sexually)?
Do you expect that love means your partner should be able to read
Does your mate claim his love for you but then does things to the
Are you staying in a relationship that you know is unhealthy for
Do you have children involved who may be being affected by an
unhealthy partner as well?
Are you the one always apologizing for all that is wrong in your
Does your mate apologize but the apology always comes with a “but?”
(“I’m sorry I yelled, but if you hadn’t gotten me mad first, I wouldn’t
have had to.”)
Do you keep staying in a relationship where no one claims their love
for each other?
Do you jump into bed with a new potential partner before you really
know him well, worrying that if you don’t, he may find someone else?