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Narcissism Victim Syndrome, A new diagnosis?
Do you see a preponderance of middle aged women in your practices with no particular physical disease process, yet a variety of physical and/or emotional complaints, including: insomnia, weight loss or gain, depression, anxiety, phobias, broken bones, lacerations, or bruises? Some may report an overwhelming feeling of emptiness or doom. Others may talk about or attempt suicide. continued ...

Emotionally Hazardous Work Environments, What's the Health Care Cost?
As companies weigh costs of doing business, the easy figures to analyze and compare are the traditional black and white ones: salaries, overhead, cost of goods, etc. Yet, what are the nebulous costs that result from absenteeism, lack of employee focus, increased usage of insurance as a result of medical conditions, and even issues related to sabotage instigated by unhappy employees, simply due to an emotionally unhealthy work environment? continued ...

Changing the Course of Depression by Changing the Environment
How many women in your practice are leaving your office with prescriptions for antidepressants? Yet do you know what questions to ask that can help you determine if their depression is the result of an emotionally abusive environment that has them feeling anxious, stressed, overwhelmed, lost, alone, and as though they're going crazy? Depressed? You bet. And most of you would be too if you lived in this constant state of emotional war zone still almost unrecognizable by our culture even today.  continued ...

Recognizing Women Abusers
The usual picture of the abuse victim from newspapers to the big screen is most commonly a woman. Stereotypically, a small, weak, low socioeconomic woman at that. Someone who can't defend herself and has been taken advantage of by a brut … a cad … a villainous man… like the monster of a man in the movie “Sleeping With the Enemy,” with Julia Roberts. (Although, I dare say, Julia's role broke a bit of the stereotype itself, as she was married to a very wealthy and respected member of the community whose friends would never have dreamed of his abusive behavior behind closed doors.)  continued ...

Conference to Help Victims of Narcissistic Relationships Become Survivors
From the boardroom to the bedroom, our narcissistic society is wrecking emotional havoc with people everywhere, leading to physical as well as mental health care issues. Yet, very little has seemingly been done to bring together victims, survivors, and health care professionals to understand the phenomenon of narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as to learn how to heal from the emotional roller coaster ride that can be the life of living or working with "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde", or someone with this "God Complex". continued ...

Polygamist cults aren't the only source of abuse and manipulation
With the Texas polygamist compound raid bringing to light the topics of mind control, abuse, and manipulation, find it interesting that so much of America finds this behavior reprehensible, yet what we still don't talk about is how this same behavior is going on behind closed doors in every neighborhood in this country.  continued ...

ISnare.com Articles
Navigating the Internet Dating Minefield: What to Know, How to Do It,
and How Not to Screw it Up!
By Mary Jo Fay

EzineArticles.com
What You Never Knew You Never Knew About Women and Sex
By Mary Jo Fay

Mary Jo is Quoted as an Expert in These Publications:

Cosmo
"For Your Guy" column, June and July, 2008
By Victoria Lucia

More.com
Too Old to Dress Sexy?
By Sherry Amatenstein, LMSW

Milwaukee Journal/Sentenial
Bad Dads Not a Fad
By Duane Dudek, June 11, 2008

Web MD
7 Relationship Problems and How To Solve Them
By Carol Sorgen, July 7, 2008

Mental Health
How to Know if the Man You Married is Self-Absorbed, Controlling
By Lenore Skomal, Divorce360.com

Savvy Singles
"The Successful First Date"
Volume 1 Issue 3

Psychopathsgroup: Targeted by a PSYCHOPATH or NARCISSIST?
"Ticking Time Bomb"
By Mary Jo Fay, Sept. 14, 2007

Web MD
“When Intimacy Turns Violent”
By Carol Sorgen, Sept. 16, 2007 

More.com
How To Date After Five Years of Celibacy
By Sherry Amatenstein, LMSW

MSN.Match.com
A Profile That Gets Results!
By Margot Carmichael Lester

Divorce360.com
Controlling Spouse Can Strip Away Your Self Esteem
By Lenore Skomal

More.com
“Reinventing Romance: Online Dating Nightmare”
By Sherry Amatenstein, Sept. 16, 2007 

Foreword Magazine
“No Means More Than No”
By Seth McEvoy, Sept/Oct 2006 

For Me Magazine
“Hot (and Bothered) – How To Get The Sex Life You Want Now”
By Brenda Della Casa, October 2006, pg 42  

First Magazine
“How Private Parts Play a Major Role in Public Confidence”
by Maxbaur, Norstrom-Ojeda, and Ross, March 13, 2006 pg 46

News-Herald.com
"Teens in violent relationships often learn that love can't ... Conquer abuse"
News Herald, 2005

MSN Dating & Personals
"4 horrible habits you can’t get him to change"
By Erika Rasmusson Janes

Newsday, New York, June 13 2005
"Love Sick, When Teen Relationships Become Abusive Sometimes No One Else Knows"
Journalist: Pat Burson

Boston Herald, Boston June 9, 2005
"Summer Temps Aren’t Only Thing Heating Up"
Journalist Lauren Beckham Falcone

Marriage Mania, I Village
"What's Your Target Timing?"
by Sherry Amantenstein

RUMBO De San Antonio (Latina publication of San Antonio) June 17, 2005
"Citas Virtuales (Internet Dating)"
by NOÉ HERNÁNDEZ

Denver Business Journal
'Career Moves,' Jan. 16- 22, 2004 'Time to think out of the "Boxx" if you seek change in your life.' by Dr. Judith Briles

Newsletter of the Rocky Mountain chapter of the Society for Technical Communication
"So, you have written your suicide letter; what's next? Or Living Outside the Boxx, by Mary Jo Fay" written by Joel Meier

The Washington Times (Editorial comment)
Who is the Narcissist?

Other Helpful Resources

Sam Vaknin, PhD, International expert on Narcissism and
author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/

Chatrooms and other links regarding relationships with narcissists:
http://www.suite101.com/welcome.cfm/npd

Marilyn Van Derber, author of Miss America by Day-abuse advocate
www.missamericabyday.com 

To learn all you should know about the financial issues involved with divorce, be sure to check out this invaluable site.
http://www.carolannwilson.com 

Looking for info that pertains to moms? Check out
www.clubmom.com

 

A Sample of Regular Columns Written by Mary Jo
Located in OKC Nursing Times

·         When Mr. Right is Really Mr. Wrong

·         Emotional Abuse, or Am I Going Crazy?

·         Childhood Sexual Abuse--Are you a Secret Survivor?

·         Victim Versus Survivors: A Conscious Choice

·         Sticks and Stones Can Break My Bones … But Words, Watch Out!

·         Reading Red Flag Behaviors On Internet Dating

·         Of Course I Deserve Love and Respect, At Least One Out of Ten Times!

·         Taking Care of You First

·         I Can't

·         The Sabotage of Others

·         The Heaviest Boxx of All

·         The Boxx Known as Fear

·         If Not Now, When?

·         Boxxed in by Depression?

·         The Expectations of Others